Thanks for calling. If you're reaching out to sell your soul, I'll already know and I'll be there soon. If you're calling to just talk, leave a message and I'll call you back when I can. Which will probably be soon. Talk to you then~
That isn't what I meant. I mean laying down the truth that hating you wouldn't be easier for either of you or better in any way.
I'm not saying it was your fault. I'm saying obligation, over all, gets a bad rap. Something to think about. Cole should too. I'll say that to him next time I see him.
[There is a song for that feeling Macaque is having and it takes a lot of self-control for Max to not let the music play in the background as they talk.]
I hope I am too. And I hope things work out for you both and your relationship.
Just because something would be easier, or better, doesn't mean it won't happen.
[ Macaque sighs. ] Good luck. I've never been able to convince Cole to change his mind about anything. Even when I told him that I can't take his advice sometimes because I have to find my own way, that didn't seem to click. He wants to help, therefore nothing else is relevant enough to get him to readjust, I guess. Except making a deal.
--I get that he's had a rough time of it. I get that I don't know much about Lost or how they work and that I get confused damn fast when he tries to explain it. I get that my efforts have been lacking with Cole, somehow. What I don't get is what I could do to fix any of it between us.
I don't wish he would hate me. Why would I be doing this if I did? I'd just leave him alone.
I understand that he wants to help. What I don't understand is why he can't help me in a way that makes me feel safe. I've tried explaining what I want from him when it comes to me having trouble with things. Him giving me advice, and if I don't follow it or don't want to take it then he's failed, that's not safeguarding me. That pushes me to not tell him things. And the only, the only thing that got him to budge from that was me offering to make a deal.
I also understand that this has changed. I used to just take his advice. But I'm learning a lot of new things when it comes to relationships and I want to do things in my own way. I just... want him to listen. That helps. I've told him that... maybe it didn't sink in? I don't know. But we always land at the same point about how he wants to help and he apparently doesn't want to help in the ways that actually help me.
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Re: Voice
Date: 2025-06-11 04:52 pm (UTC)From:I'm not saying it was your fault. I'm saying obligation, over all, gets a bad rap. Something to think about. Cole should too. I'll say that to him next time I see him.
[There is a song for that feeling Macaque is having and it takes a lot of self-control for Max to not let the music play in the background as they talk.]
I hope I am too. And I hope things work out for you both and your relationship.
Re: Voice
Date: 2025-06-11 05:45 pm (UTC)From:[ Macaque sighs. ] Good luck. I've never been able to convince Cole to change his mind about anything. Even when I told him that I can't take his advice sometimes because I have to find my own way, that didn't seem to click. He wants to help, therefore nothing else is relevant enough to get him to readjust, I guess. Except making a deal.
--I get that he's had a rough time of it. I get that I don't know much about Lost or how they work and that I get confused damn fast when he tries to explain it. I get that my efforts have been lacking with Cole, somehow. What I don't get is what I could do to fix any of it between us.
Re: Voice
Date: 2025-06-11 05:57 pm (UTC)From:Cole is a nurturer. He wants to be a protector. He wants to be the one to help someone, to safeguard them, to help them feel safe.
Framing things in that way can help you re-establish a good tempo.
Re: Voice
Date: 2025-06-11 06:03 pm (UTC)From:I understand that he wants to help. What I don't understand is why he can't help me in a way that makes me feel safe. I've tried explaining what I want from him when it comes to me having trouble with things. Him giving me advice, and if I don't follow it or don't want to take it then he's failed, that's not safeguarding me. That pushes me to not tell him things. And the only, the only thing that got him to budge from that was me offering to make a deal.
I also understand that this has changed. I used to just take his advice. But I'm learning a lot of new things when it comes to relationships and I want to do things in my own way. I just... want him to listen. That helps. I've told him that... maybe it didn't sink in? I don't know. But we always land at the same point about how he wants to help and he apparently doesn't want to help in the ways that actually help me.