Thanks for calling. If you're reaching out to sell your soul, I'll already know and I'll be there soon. If you're calling to just talk, leave a message and I'll call you back when I can. Which will probably be soon. Talk to you then~
I don't wish he would hate me. Why would I be doing this if I did? I'd just leave him alone.
I understand that he wants to help. What I don't understand is why he can't help me in a way that makes me feel safe. I've tried explaining what I want from him when it comes to me having trouble with things. Him giving me advice, and if I don't follow it or don't want to take it then he's failed, that's not safeguarding me. That pushes me to not tell him things. And the only, the only thing that got him to budge from that was me offering to make a deal.
I also understand that this has changed. I used to just take his advice. But I'm learning a lot of new things when it comes to relationships and I want to do things in my own way. I just... want him to listen. That helps. I've told him that... maybe it didn't sink in? I don't know. But we always land at the same point about how he wants to help and he apparently doesn't want to help in the ways that actually help me.
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Re: Voice
Date: 2025-06-11 05:57 pm (UTC)From:Cole is a nurturer. He wants to be a protector. He wants to be the one to help someone, to safeguard them, to help them feel safe.
Framing things in that way can help you re-establish a good tempo.
Re: Voice
Date: 2025-06-11 06:03 pm (UTC)From:I understand that he wants to help. What I don't understand is why he can't help me in a way that makes me feel safe. I've tried explaining what I want from him when it comes to me having trouble with things. Him giving me advice, and if I don't follow it or don't want to take it then he's failed, that's not safeguarding me. That pushes me to not tell him things. And the only, the only thing that got him to budge from that was me offering to make a deal.
I also understand that this has changed. I used to just take his advice. But I'm learning a lot of new things when it comes to relationships and I want to do things in my own way. I just... want him to listen. That helps. I've told him that... maybe it didn't sink in? I don't know. But we always land at the same point about how he wants to help and he apparently doesn't want to help in the ways that actually help me.